Marriage can be a very satisfying experience when two people are getting along very well and to achieve this there is a need for intimacy.
Intimacy in a marital relationship is all about feelings of emotional closeness and connectedness between you and your partner. It involves being able to share a whole range of thoughts, feelings, and experiences with one another. Intimacy plays an important role in maintaining a happy and healthy relationship or togetherness in marriage. For there to be intimacy in every relationship, some things need to be in place.
Sleeping together is a must for every married couple. It doesn’t matter if you have many rooms in your house, it doesn’t matter if your children have a room for themselves, it is very important that couples sleep on the same bed in the same room. Many couples sleep together only when they want to make love, and after having sex, they both go to their separate rooms. This is not right. Don’t sleep together only when you want to have sex. When couples sleep together, they gist, talk, romance each other, all these things rekindled love and enhance intimacy between husband and wife. Quarrel and pending unresolved matters can easily be attended to and resolved amicably when on the bed together. Body contact of a couple is very important, everything is not about sex, when you sleep together you create awareness and bond. Note this, when couples sleep in separate rooms, they can both fall into temptation because there will be freedom to relate with the opposite sex which can lead to adultery. You should not relegate the place of good sexual intimacy and activities in your bedroom. It is your privacy and anything can happen on the matter of sex between both of you. When couples sleep in different rooms, their sexual life will be badly affected, this may destroy every other thing in the home. Regular Sex is healthy to the couple’s body and mind. Tension and conflicts are reduced where there is an active sex life
Eating together is another thing that can bring intimacy between husband and wife. When husband and wife eat together, they are actually conversing and since food is a great experience in itself, sharing a good experience always makes you closer. Eating together as a family gives you a sense of belonging. Eat together at least once a day. If possible eat together on the same plate, if not, eat at the same time. Wife, if your husband is likely to return very late at night from work, you can take light food to suppress hunger till he comes back
When couples shower together, they discover each other entirely, sharing each aspect of themselves and hiding nothing. It brings you close and you connect to your partner at every level.
It provokes an erotic opportunity that should be taken advantage of as much as possible making you explore your partner’s body as much as you can.
A long and relaxing bath relieves stress like no other thing. So imagine how great it would be if you both shower together. When you head to the shower with your partner after a long and tiring day you will be surprised how recharged you will be in a few minutes. Married couples should cultivate the habit of bathing together. This should be done regularly most especially at night when the children are asleep and it will set a comfortable tone for an evening of romance and lovemaking. You should enjoy seeing the nakedness of your spouse (husband or wife)at all times. Bathing together is fun. Bathing together is romantic.
Communication is one of the vital ingredients of a successful marriage.
Great communication leads to an emotional connection. In turn, the emotional connection you feel toward your spouse brings out the natural desire to show physical affection. Good communication is healthy for your marriage. There is power in communication as it energized the couple and also binds them together as one. A relationship that is deficient in communication will cause small misunderstandings to be aggravated. Ineffective communication will cause partners to rain insults at each other at the slightest provocation and even emotionally detach from each other. Don’t toy or failed to have good communication together often. By this, it shows you are both committed and your relationship is still alive and functioning. Communication is what takes your relationship to the next level. Any marriage that lost its communication lost its breath.
Dating is not limited to singles alone. Married couples should find time to go on a date too.
Dating among couples improve marriages by bringing happiness, commitment, communication, parenthood stability, and community integration. There is evidence that married couples who devote time together at least once a week not only have lower divorce rates but also increase the perceived quality of their marriage. This is enough evidence to start dating your spouse more. You can fix a day out of your busy schedule to go out on a date. This type of dating does not involve children, you go out with your spouse and have fun. Going out on a date often can strengthen your love and your intimacy with your spouse and make you guys feel as if you are falling in love with each other all over again.
On the day you and your spouse were joined together as husband and wife, you became one in the eyes of God, and praying together reaffirm this oneness. Also in marriage, you have to mesh your dreams, desires, attitudes, assumptions, needs, and habits with those of your spouse and so when you pray with your spouse you are drawn into unity with God and, as a result, with one another. Couples that pray together stay together. It’s so important for married couples to pray together. Praying together helps strengthens the bonds of intimacy in your relationship. In marriage, there are challenges that do comes up once in a while and these challenges are been faced by husband and wife thus the need to pray together. When you hold hands and pray, you connect with your spouse spiritually and physically. You speak with one voice and agree together spiritually.
When you pray together, you are focusing your minds, hearts, and marriage on God. You are making your marriage God-centered. You are sharing with Him your deepest needs and desires, hopes, and dreams together. All these create intimacy among couples. Praying together regularly can do signs and wonders in your marriage.When marriages are working well, families function better. The children are happy. This requires a closer relationship and there cannot be a closer relationship without intimacy among husband and wife which can be achieved through the application of all the above listed.