I have read beautiful books and articles where the writer pointed out the ways to know if a man loves a woman or not. Most of these writers have done a pretty good job of stating down the many ways by which you can know if a man really loves a woman or not.
But from my research and observations on relationships and love matters coupled with the experience I have in marriage, I discovered that there is only one way by which a woman can know if a man truly loves her or not. A man can declare his love for a woman without even knowing that he doesn’t really love the woman why because he does not understand what love is. He can tag the emotional feelings he has for the woman as love.
So how can a woman know if a man loves her?. It is very simple, what you do is to just ask him a simple question ” WHY DO YOU LOVE ME”. If a man tells you he loves you, ask him why does he love you. If he begins to give many reasons why he loves you, like; he loves you because you are beautiful, because you are hardworking, because you have a good job or even because you have a good body structure then know he doesn’t have a true love for you. This is so because anytime his reasons for loving you is no longer there, the love vanishes away. Let say he loves you because you have a good-paying job, once something happens and you lose the job his love for you will also cease.
This is the reason why we have so many crises in most marriages. You see couples professing love for each other before their wedding only to separate after a while, then you begin to ask where the love they’ve been declaring for each other is. The answer is, there has not been love among them in the first place.
This is the reason why it is so important that the woman has a proper understanding of what love truly is, likewise the man.
There has been lots of misconception on love. Many have failed to understand what true love is and they have been acting on this ignorance. The question is “what is true love”. The reason, it is so important to have this understanding is so because marriage is a serious affair, and love itself does not keep a marriage. What keeps a marriage is understanding. Understanding what love truly is.
I have a post where I gave an in-depth explanation of what true love is, “UNDERSTANDING LOVE “.
I define love as a response to the value you place on something or someone. You see when you place value on something or someone, you will make sacrifices, a lot of sacrifices to get that thing or that person and after you have gotten it, you will so cherish it not only that, you will also want always to improve its quality. That is why when you see a man that truly loves a woman, he will do everything to always improve her quality. Be it in her education, see her grow in her career, make her always look beautiful, always forgive her, and so on. Why this? because of the high value, he placed on her.
So next time when a man tells you he loves you, ask him “why does he love you”. Don’t be flattered by his many sweet words. So that when you enter into a relationship with him you both will have a wonderful and successful relationship where you will be highly esteemed.
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